Funeral Etiquette

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Funeral Etiquette

Postby LizAnn » Thu Nov 01, 2018 10:19 am

We have a funeral to attend and I am not sure of the etiquette with children. Do we bring them? Get a sitter? What do you guys do?

My mom's friend's son (33 years old) died, and we will be attending the services. I don't know any of the arrangements yet, so maybe timing will clear up what makes sense for us, but I was just wondering what people do.
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Re: Funeral Etiquette

Postby jennelled » Thu Nov 01, 2018 10:53 am

For that distant of a connection, I'd probably get a sitter. I brought our girls to two funerals this year (my grandpa and my grandma), but I wanted them there for my own comfort. They'd met them both before but weren't close.
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Re: Funeral Etiquette

Postby LizAnn » Thu Nov 01, 2018 2:25 pm

Thanks. That was my inclination too. I am honestly hoping that it is scheduled for a week day so we don't have to line up child care.

It is an absolutely awful situation. I don't know what happened exactly but he was in a car accident. He has a 4 year old son. :cry:
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Re: Funeral Etiquette

Postby jennelled » Thu Nov 01, 2018 2:42 pm

LizAnn wrote:Thanks. That was my inclination too. I am honestly hoping that it is scheduled for a week day so we don't have to line up child care.

It is an absolutely awful situation. I don't know what happened exactly but he was in a car accident. He has a 4 year old son. :cry:

Yeah, with that additional info I really don't think I'd bring them. People are going to be visibly upset and it will probably be scary for them. I know that sometimes kids are a bright spot at these things, but if he had a young son then he will already be there - and my kids didn't behave beautifully at the funerals, which was okay because it was MY grandparents, but would have been way more awkward if I felt like we were infringing on someone else's memorial, you know?
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Re: Funeral Etiquette

Postby *K » Mon Nov 05, 2018 10:13 am

I am sorry to hear that. :(

I would probably try to arrange other care. I generally think it's best not to bring kids unless they are close relatives.
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Re: Funeral Etiquette

Postby ame » Fri Nov 09, 2018 7:42 am

Our rule was always "you bring the kids for close family super close friends, otherwise find them another place for the day." My sister didn't bring the boys for my Grandparent's funerals though, because they were just the right age to not be able to sit still.
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